How much do you know about you? . . . the fascinating landscape of your psyche, the complicated terrain of your heart? . . . getting to know yourself is one of life’s most thrilling and worthwhile endeavors, the only real path to a whole, and wholehearted life.

This wisdom was published in the February issue of Oprah Magazine in the article 20 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Herself. I wholeheartedly agree with the article’s introduction to living a full life. It is tremendously important that we know who we are at our core, so that our life, decisions, and life’s path fall in line with our true center, our inner compass, our essence.

We all have a social self, or self we show to others. Sometimes this projection is not consistent with who we are when we are at home, and can be inconsistent across various environments. But to be a whole person, we need to be fully ourselves and act in accordance with this wherever we are. Playing to who we think others want us to be is a losing proposition, a life sapper, and one that leads people astray from a sense of fulfillment and purpose in life.

Do I feel at home? is consideration number 1 of the article. Veronica Chambers, author of Kickboxing Geishas, wrote this segment of the larger article, and tells the story of living a “very sad year” in an old railway flat that had two windows and no sunlight. Continuously trying to enhance the space she painted it and bought beautiful pillows, but still, it was dark and as such, uncomfortable to her.

After a conversation with a friend, she found a new place that was sunnier, though smaller, with eight windows and found herself contented. Veronica realized that for her, light was essential to her feeling of home. Additionally, she identified warmth and beauty as essentials as well.

Veronica describes her home now, later, with husband and child, as “perfectly arranged to soothe and inspire” (though rarely perfectly clean!) She writes when she walks in the door she wants to feel that “ahhhh” or I’m home feeling, and she wants her family to feel that no matter what is going on outside, all will be well within.

How perfectly cozy and grounding is that? How does she have such wisdom now? She listened to herself and her friends, and changed an area of her life that was not working for her. In short, she course-corrected, following the guidance of her internal compass.

Case in point. Surely, Veronica’s experience is a life lesson for all of us. Hope you feel at home this May weekend 🙂