Whoever loves must try to act as if they had a great work; they must be much alone and go into themselves and collect themselves and hold fast . . . the more one is, the richer is all that one experiences. And whoever wants to have a deep love in their life must collect and save for it and gather honey.
-Rainer Maria Rilke
Rilke describes love as action, rather than a feeling, which can come and go, change and be fleeting. While it can be difficult to control one’s feelings, one can decide to love others as an act, and act in ways that are loving.
In Rilke’s excerpt I have replaced the words “he,” and “himself” with gender-neutral wording, so that in reading it, it is applicable to everyone.
Try reading the passage again inserting the word “he” instead “they.”
Progress happens for a reason . . .
Original post Some Thoughts on Love from December 2014.